Life is funny. Sometimes when you think you’re out of options the world opens up right before your eyes. It’s like all of a sudden everything makes sense. You are what you project onto other people. You control your own environment.
People flock together for common ground. They say it takes you only a few seconds to know if you are attracted to someone. But what about a friend? How long does it take you to be excepted by others? I suppose it depends on the situation.
For men and women coming together is instinctual, it seems most of the time as long as your not creeping the other person out, common ground can be met fairly reasonably. But for woman meeting other woman of the same age, there are many uncomfortable threatened feelings that naturally occur. In many cases it seems as if these feelings prevent friendship or even simply a smile.
I find comfort in other woman who don’t have a point to prove. Although, I am that woman who does. But not really in the way that it seems. I have a personal pursuit for my personal best at all times. I am competitive and smart. Not to sound arrogant but I am just trying to celebrate my own life here as should all of you.
Truth is, we are all too smart. We are all too alert and on to each other, nitpicking each other’s lifestyles and constantly worrying about what’s over the fence. Social media has definitely had a lot to do with that.
The point I’m trying to make here is simply, finding friendship with other woman my own age at 28 years old after being with the same man for 13 years is hard. Impossible even. I have been telling myself for a long time now that it was absolutely not happening for me. I had given up. And just when I decided that it was too late for me, I saw a post on -social media- and here I am. Part of a team. Part of a womanhood who celebrate each other who cheer each other on, congratulate and praise. And it feels amazing. Not in the ooh that guy looked at me kind of way, in this whole
who cares about guys kind of way.
Women and men alike should empower each other. Be part of something for just one day and you will feel like you are surrounded, enveloped in something so much bigger than you. Softball doesn’t care if you are tired, the game still goes on. No one will wait. No one will ever wait, until you’re done with your bad attitude and disinterest. Life is going to go on every second that you’re too involved in yourself to even bother to wonder what goes on inside the head of another.
Be a friend. Be good to each other. It is so much easier to go through life being a part of something than it is to go at it alone. Let go of your inhibitions.